Why your husband doesn't need you to 'fix' him #marriageadvice #relationships

What does a man actually need from his wife? A lot of people think that he needs her support. He needs to be able to lean on her. Most women cannot provide that for their husbands. Even if they can muster the ability to provide it, they don't actually want to provide it. It makes them feel unsafe when they have to be the rock that their man is leaning on. And the truth is that even if she'll force herself to provide it, it doesn't really satisfy him because that's not what he really needs from her anyways in the first place. What a man actually needs from his wife is not that she helps him carry the load or even necessarily listens to him talk about the load he's carrying, but that she can acknowledge that he carries that load for them and that she expresses this acknowledgement in the form of gratitude and giving him his peace. She may even say to him, "Thank you for carrying what you carry for us." And then she shows him that she acknowledges that by then giving him peace. If he's out there in the world absorbing all this stress, and he comes home, and now there's more stress, it is so demoralizing. But when he comes home, and he finds not that his wife comforts him, she doesn't have to dote upon him. To the contrary, she's not his mother. She's not there to nurture him. But she can just give him peace, then he feels it's all worth it to carry what he carries. She feels safe and protected, and he feels like a man.