Rabbi Yaakov Bender - Topic of Dreams

if you have a bad dream you can't stop the dream the dream is there you go back to sleep the dream still comes back to you whatever it is it is I'll tell you someone just told me am I you ready have this dream spoke to some lady I was before I got married not saying names now I want to marry a certain girl came from a very very she home but his parents typical Holocaust Survivors want that only a wealthy wealthy wealthy wealthy girl they don't want anybody from under home like that and so I didn't know this father and mother was and um I read the sh I knew the family very well I read the and they went out boom boom boom boom boom and a few weeks later the Father the boy came to he walk in who he wanted to strangle me such stories don't happen they surrounded the guy you know because why 22 23 those days speaks over his parents who am I supposed to know and I just spoke to the mother because she wants to make certain kid in America I spoke on the phone he said I want to tell you that my husband had a dream that his father recently came to him in a Dream It's aming story it's spooky almost he said didn't die too long ago to Father like they almost given him a time he didn't pay I said let's go pay up come on I it's scary you got to pay you know even though sometimes your dream doesn't mean anything I'm going around topic to topic I know what you guys don't to speak about but dreams you know are not P sometimes so when you know anything that bothered him this was his rule he woke up in a dream that bothered him he was he was made he didn't it maybe too often he would tell you maybe you got too nervous about it but the time you have a B Dream is only to wake up three times you go so he used to he felt apology during the day etc etc but I'm all the dreams are what I don't understand be Story I Heard directly from the AL CU I checked afterwards there was a younger man that 43 years ago this younger man I saw him before he died I was sitting in their house was right before today today is close to that right okay K so um I said to her baby this walking around here he looks like something bothering him he's pacing in the room a friend of or I don't know which one it was and he's pacing in the room and and um I said no he's fine good you an hour and a half later he was dead CR into a tree he was lift up like something was eating at him okay the was held that night after 3 a.m. 3 a.m. he his had a home in Lakewood home said he said to I have a problem the morning he was lifted we went into and so on 100% I spoke to the I spoke to the Alman I knew well CU our kids used to come to the camp that I was in he had a was they left over he went went to the in the old building was the way the old building was the Y before it was rebuilt it had a library on one side downstairs and the other side was kab rooms and he says to him that he went through safe and was left and he put it on a bookcase in theab room right across put on bookas to come back later on that night return to sa he don't take it with him and unfortunately he's he has a problem now first of all hey man I got bigger problem I put back safer right what does that mean so try to answer that later I have a stickle terrs on I think so what happened so you man got up and found theer exactly he it was he put back theer happy with be he came back to him in his told him he took care of me never happened so M was right away I about you I know my my much worse than that I think the answer is maybe says end of the says came and he was and he said if you want to have the major ma what do you do to make sure you do all the mitzah so if he do these 11 things properly other that is the biggest thing but one of the 11 right one is one was over there as different I think keeps quiet think it was that he that that that one of the thing is you have to always when you hear somebody talking you have to protest if you don't protest it's a t on the person so Rashi says on him that he never did it it seems Rashi says but he was n brings another rash over there and when he was LIF his wife saw crawling out of his ears were worms so she came he came to that one time he heard right he didn't protest so uses as an example of someone who never heard and kept quiet and here he's telling his wife the reason why they're giving him a hard time is because he once heard someone if you're mock on something if you really mock on something and you keep that MIT you up to sh they give you a real welcome you took here like Mr Rosenberg made the sh's laboratory in Williamsburg the original sh laborator sh he took a Mitzvah that was non-existent in America totally non-existent in America people wearing shotless clothing and he made the first non shotless laboratory saved thez a person that a certain Mitzvah even say keep putting away far and if he don't put sa for one time that's I think he must been someone his wife told me afterward he was back when I'm returning his F all the time so he had this MIT come up to that would have given him of degree but what happened but what happened he blew it one time on purpose no he went to return the safe and then he was killed in a car accident so when you take a Mitzvah that's I try to tell guys she was take something make this your Mitzvah make this your Mitzvah he was thinking giving up this at one then he had then he had a dream then his brother brother say say the was the nicest kid not chish cleaning up at night always the machine everything end taking a lot of time so I don't know if I should do it or not I'm doing it for for my father so I told her if I should do it and I said you know my brother always claims he has Jun from my father I'm stopping to do it if I'm supposed to be doing it I'm my brother brother will let me know the next day my brother tells me I saw you in my dream last the weirdest dream like what do you dream about he said he's working my father of him my father woke up he needed a coffee and he never drank coffee he was Dr coffee he Dr he didn't want to talk to him he didn't want my brother said once you out talk to him in of what what he was trying to reach my father's notes said I just need my coffee weird you tell your father no I de it's you it's she was in you that this Happ say your father coming to your brother it's she was in you that he came to help you out really is she was him and your brother