Tomer Devorah Middot 1 through 4 with Rabbi Aaron Dovid Poston

foreign [Music] foreign [Music] last week so I would encourage anybody watching us to go back and see the introduction because that really lays out the whole foundation for the book but we also did was we used the Arts girl tashley like in a very uh concise very short fashion the 13 attributes what we're going to deal with today in the next 45 minutes if we can is only the first four only the first four hopefully hopefully I mean last time we had 45 minutes we went for over an hour right uh but no seriously I hope to you know bring it down in a more concise fashion myself uh I mentioned for those this is the book really to get this is dealing with the first chapter which is the 13 attributes of Mercy according to mikha chapter 7 which parallel the chapter 32 of Exodus of the 13 attributes and for some reason these are considered higher these are the ones that in other words God manifests the way it's expressed in 32 of Exodus and yet this is how we should behave in in this fashion and we spoke about how we affect Hashem in other words and I titled the last class the last uh the first uh the series um we're the shadow of God but yet to not cause God our shadow so this is a double limitation we imitate him and he imitates us which is very hard to really get our head around we think about Hashem but Hashem is really incomprehensible I mean there's only certain things we know and that's what the Torah taught us umosha to the prophets and we can look at nature and figure some of these things out but we're not like fully you know like only using 10 of our brain if we're lucky right honey so is everything okay so here we go we're going to start with the first of the first of four um okay [Music] so as we saw in the Tash league and I'll just read the verse from Mika once again for everybody who of God is like you that's going to be the first who pardons iniquity that's number two so let's just talk about those two these two are before chuva God is going to be merciful to us while we're still sinning and that sounds crazy but again we're supposed to imitate him how many Sinners are there or people who are abusive or people don't don't know what they're doing right in our lives that we could be reacting to so we're gonna act like Hashem right because that's one of the 613 Mitzvahs is the imitation so who oh God is like you who pardons iniquity this is before chuva so let's begin with the first and I gave you sheets and I'm going to read slowly and we'll do just the English I mean I don't mind doing Hebrews gonna just take twice as long so this attribute teaches us that Hashem Bears insults and endures offense first of all to the extent we cannot even fathom the actually the first idea is that he is sustaining Us in fact I mentioned um agave in our God is not just the Creator past tense of the world he is constantly every I don't know if you had you divide it called it nanosecond right is recreating the world and if we realize this is before chuva so if we're still sinning and he's CR he's infusing life into us so that means he's like the like I I don't want to belittle it but you know the energy source the power source the battery that's giving us the energy is actually sin and continue to sin but what's really behind it because he's very patient very loving and he will let's talk about you know exacting punishment at some other time we're talking about mercy here that he wants us to do Trula he actually wants us to do children now the truth is I just want to reiterate he actually wants us this plan a plan B and plan C in creation and this is from Rabbi Captain's uh famous uh explanation of the ram Khal God really wants us to do midst that's plan a we do misses everything's great but we are Flesh and Blood We Are Not Angels the terror was not offered to Angels Angels don't need the toy they don't do business they don't have family relationships and all that stuff that we have we're the extra hurray they don't have the yet Sara they don't need it so we we have it and we need it but we're not perfect we're not we're flesh and blood so sometimes we fail we don't always do the misses properly or even at all so Hashem gave us plan B true okay guess what I mean we're still not angels and we still don't do true but not all of us but uh properly not fully and maybe not at all so we have plan C which is suffering so you don't have to suffer you don't have to suffer right that's that's plan C so bizarat Hashem uh we understand that he is patient right he doesn't cause the suffering immediately right he's patient and loving and wants to see us learn about the Mitzvahs and learn about truva and get on the program so to speak Okay so amazingly he sustains us even while we're sinning so now we're going to go back into the text certainly nothing is hidden from his eyes furthermore our very existence every moment is sustained by a supernal force that flows from above okay there's no question about it that's what we know about God thus no sin has ever been committed unless at the very instant the person was sinning Hashem was knowingly granting him the power to exist and move his lips right every I mean we're talking about Pure Energy whatever science you want to look at you know the deepest science this every atom is spinning it's spinning because God's spinning these atoms okay so everything that we do is ultimately because of the combination of everything behind the science so to speak it's all from Hashem even though the sinner uses that Force to sin because that is what we're doing aren't we he's that battery that's that's powering our bodies and yet we're using it negatively Hashem does not withhold it from him at all we're still breathing we're still thinking and bizarat Hashem will be thinking about God in the bathtub who Bears the affront of supplying him or her with power and movement of the limbs well the person is still using the power at the moment of sin iniquity and provocation and Hashem endures I just want to remind ourselves we're going to get to the point where we have to imitate God if he's doing this to us and we run into difficult people how are we supposed to treat them it's huge test I mean I should say like I mentioned in the beginning of last week the introduction who am I I mean I have a law but I'm not going to tell you guys but I'm sure everyone knows we're all human I also have a list things I have to work on it ain't finished right if it was finished I probably wouldn't be here do not say that Hashem is unable to hold back from him that goodness God forbid totally capable in a moment Hashem could paralyze a sinner's hands and feet like he did to your of them now I want to talk about this story in your oven in First Kings chapter 13 4. Edo the prophet comes to him he's furious with oneido you know gives why did the Kings Why did many many kings killed prophets by the way I just want to mention this you know that the Christians say oh you killed all your Prophets we didn't kill the prophets many times it was the king that killed the prophets it was a suicide mission if you were a prophet okay so you come and tell me you you know you did something wrong get on the program because that's the job of the Prophet that's his CV you know that's what he's going to do but you go to the king who has the right let's say the powers to say off with your head so so it was like a suicide mission you're going in to tell this evil King that he's evil forget about it right you're not going to have such a long uh resume and so what happens over there your ravum set up Idols in the north he made a you know these golden calves uh different temples you know he wouldn't let the Jews the Israelites from the north come down to Jerusalem which they come up to Jerusalem from the north and God did not do anything to your other he continued to allow him to breathe in exist and you know be a monarch but when he wanted to strike Edo God paralyzed him so God can power but just understand God I mean not that we can but an Insight here when it was his own insult because it's an insult to build temples and idols and not let Jews come to Jerusalem he didn't he allowed European to breathe and exist but when he was ready to strike a human being such as either the prophet God paralyzed it so there is a limit don't think it's uh you know but at least God we had this concept we call God it's a very strange concept but he's a meleth near love he's an insulted King was to talk about that how he Bears the insults and endures offenses again beyond our comprehension and I can understand I mean I can understand to a certain extent many of these other religions how they have this suffering God but this suffering God is merciful right he's merciful and that is very different than many of these other religions um okay so now we are still here he mentions the story of your brother although Hashem has the ability to withdraw that power he grants and he could say since you sin against me do so with your own power not mine well first of all we don't have any power but he could say you know you're going to sin against me isn't that how we would think uh someone comes to our table or that's where somebody we're helping and they're insulting or they're not nice or they do something that could be hurtful to so you're going to stop helping them well if stopping helping them is the best thing for them but maybe that relationship keeping it going perhaps is the best thing foreign so just because the person's sinning doesn't mean you just turn your back to them Shem didn't do that to us so despite this Hashem does not withhold his goodness so as not to suffer the disgrace he gives the sinner power and his goodness he's constantly you know flowing uh Hashem is conflict on his goodness towards even The Sinner which is us hashem's endurance and patience defy description we cannot even imagine but yet we have to imagine it because we have to follow we want to grow and we want to be Spiritual Beings and we want forgiveness ourselves we have to Grant forgiveness to others for this reason the Angels call Hashem the king who endures disgrace as it says in chapter 25. now this is the meaning of our media that we're talking about who Hashem is like you you are Hashem who does kindness and goodness you are Hashem who is the power to take revenge and gather what is yours we're going to talk about revenge shortly what is the difference between taking out revenge and and taking out a grudge we'll talk about that shortly remind me I last time I I said I'm going to talk about something remind me nobody did but okay nevertheless you endure the and you Hashem endure and tolerate disgrace until the Sinners return and chuba so that again we have to imagine now what we have to do with the people around us this is an attribute that man must emulate to endure even if he is insulted to such an extent he should not withhold his goodness from the one who receives it sounds like a very difficult agenda first of all it can be done I mean many of us grew up many uh hopefully we grew up some of us in Dysfunctional households we have no idea how right Hashem did not throw up in a dysfunctional household he knows exactly what is the proper way so we have to seek guidance um you guys don't have the next paragraph I'm going to read but it's like a summary when a person consistently does favors for another and is one day met with a tremendously offensive display of ingratitude in which the beneficiary of his kindness uses the very favor he bestowed in order to harm him it is a difficult insult to bear it is none if he nonetheless continues to bestow the same favor that was used against him with the hopes that one day the beneficiary will make amends he displays a Restraint of anger which ascends to heaven and again the whole thesis here is that what we do opens the spigot of Mercy from above so what happens your Restraint of anger your display of the Restraint of anger ascends to heaven and awakens hashem's attribute of Mercy expressed by who Hashem is like you bringing that element of Mercy into the world it's not just for you it actually the whole world will will benefit that's that's the whole thesis it's a really unbelievable okay so the truth is even though we're going to go to the next one there's so much more to study about this particular attribute and I encourage you to do so okay so let's now move to oh I do want to read here this is the password it's a very short line on attribute one so this is right out of the Arts girl tashley who oh God is like you the translation follows the Malibu targum paraphrases there is no one but you you alone are God the prophet expresses the recognition that God is incomparable like a no believer but he patiently Bears man's sins although the sinner has abused the life that God gives him so here's the bottom line man should emulate this attribute by learning to be patient and even kind to those who abuse and keep the person okay let's move to number two I'm sure I didn't cover most of I told you that each class I gave was like an hour and a half on each attribute so we're using like 15 minutes of okay the second one is called bearing sin again these two attributes number one number two is before juva so God is carrying our sins we'll see what it means to Bear the sin even before we do chuva this attribute to turn the page is greater so they're all going to be greater than the previous one this one is greater than the previous one with every sin that a person commits we discuss this I think we discussed this last week but we'll talk about again a destructive Angels created whether you believe in angels or not let's think of Energies right when you do something negative some energy is brought into the world now the way we express it is in the day of judgment we're going to be standing before the great judge and these angels that we created are going to testify on our behalf or against us so the Satan is called the um the agitator the person the prosecutor that's how we understand that I want to express a little bit different I don't know if these angels actually have to speak I don't know if they have to speak I think they're near presence you created them they're standing over your shoulder the left side the right side the red ones the white ones you know however you want to imagine this energy that you created the very fact that that energy exists God's aware of their energy he's aware you created this negative force that alone testifies against you that's how I would like to explain it for those who don't believe in angels who don't have any comprehensions they are very hard to you know imagine although many people have watched television have some kind of idea of cartoons some kind of idea but they're not necessarily uh visible and we're nor tangible so every sin that we do now the first thing we talked about that God is giving us the energy to continue while we're sinning these destructive angels that we created they're also created beings and he's constantly manifesting their existence that's where we're going with this he's bearing the sin he's carrying the sin by the sin itself right the results of the sin sometimes is that energy that you created and he's keeping that going unbelievable so we're going to have to figure out how we're going to emulate this into our own lives um as the sages said a person who commits one of Vera this is a perfect vote acquires one prosecutor but guess what it's also true on the other side you have defending Angels just as well don't forget but right now we're talking about that prosecutor stands before karishbaraku and says see this is where I'm not sure he has to actually open his mouth but this is what it claims it says this person created me I don't understand I mean I understand but I don't know if he has to open his mouth he's sitting over my left shoulder Hashem knows I created him nothing can exist in this world unless it's stained by the life force that Hashem provides just like the human being the destructive angel now stands before Hashem well how is it sustained how shall it be sustained it would be fair for Hashem to say I do not support destructive Angels right that makes sense why would God who is all good continue to give a Life Force to this destructive angel you know God can say I'm not going to do it anymore you know what go to the person that created you let him continue to um to sustain you well we couldn't go to the person who created let him support you the destructive Angel would then immediately descend and claim the person's life right he would take the person's life it's like a parasite you take the person's life and then he dies right so what's the point then it's like suicide for the destructive Angel so God in a certain sense is allowing this Angel to live and saying I'm going to continue to sustain you because what's the other option you're going to take the life force out of the person I mean we've all seen all kinds of crazy movies right where this you know you sell your your soul to the devil then you get eternal life that's like the storyline behind a lot of movies anyway God doesn't allow that to happen uh let me just read that last point the destructive Angel would then immediately descend and claim the person's life or cut off the soul or give him whatever punishment is appropriate until that destructive Angel is a nulled right and so we have to understand God is so full of mercy and I just want to share something because in this week's Parsha kisavo we have the 98 curses in the 98 curses God's name appears 26 times I say God's name which is the gamachia of 26. and let me talk about a second but basically you have to understand that what we call curses their ways their messages that you need to improve yourself it's coming from a merciful Place 26 times your K Bob caves mentioned and there are 676 words of the 98 curses and 26 times 26 is 676. and when it says in another plastic you know that you're not going to have all these uh it's a Robos all these things would happen to you the word Rose is 676. so it's from Hashem number one you should know and recognize he wants us to do he's sending you a message I love you I have mercy for you I'm sustaining you until the day you do truth until the moment you do truly it's an amazing idea um so I just wanted to share that however Shem does not do so he bears and endures the sin just as he sustains the entire world he sustains and supports the destructive Angel until one of three things occur either The Sinner does juvenile which is plant B or and destroys the true true the you destroy that negative Angel you understand now we could talk about I don't want to talk about so many things but we're going on a little bit of tangents do you know the difference between doing kashuva out of love and doing out of fear either way it'll be destroyed but just imagine when one does truth on a lower level just out of fear whatever that means you get a clean slate isn't that wonderful it is quite wonderful remarkable but there's something even greater so that angel that negative angel or energy you created is now puff gone just disappeared can you imagine what happens when you do Toshiba out of love I want everyone to really feel this you actually transform those negative angels they were what Prosecuting you or let's say making a negative thing against you they're your defending Angels they actually will turn around look how far how far this person came because he did true that of love all of our negatives are our veros our sins actually are transformed into mitzvahs I know it's like really hard to get your head around but if you ever ditchuva you'll realize how much God loves you and you'll I think you'll feel that energy I really believe that you will feel that energy of knowing you that you've out of love and those negatives we're not just wiped out which would have been fine enough it really would have right everyone admit it would be fine enough but we're talking like Super Booster like turbo okay like okay so if you're gonna do two of you might as well figure out how to do what I love right you're gonna do truth anyway right you're gonna do add a suffering are you gonna do it right you know above you know Plan B and okay either the Senate does truth or destroys and the knows the Angels through his presence or the just judge annulls it through suffering and death which is like you know let's call it plan C but it's plan Z it's like off the charts already you know and uh so this is what what did Kyan say like in Genesis chapter 4 verse 13. is my sin too ready to Bear right God sees he's a little bit down what what took place foreign 's offering was not accepted this is before the murder his his offering was not accepted Abel's was and kind is a little bit down Hashem notices and he asks you why are you annoyed why is your accountants Fallen this is in chapter 4 verse 6. this is what God says to him is it not true that if you do good you will be forgiven very nice that's what God says to him but if you do not do good now what does that mean doing good talking about improving your character working on your relationship with God but if you do not do good at the entrance in crouches it's long English towards you yet you could rule over it so you could conquer this whatever you thrown at you you can take care okay then we have the murder and we're looking for uh verse 13th so this is after kind pills able Kane says Hashem is my iniquity too great to be born behold you banish me this day so God is carrying his sin and yet Cayenne doesn't know what to do it's too it sounds it feels too heavy for him but Hashem is able to carry it so here the sages explain the question like this as if as if Cain is asking actually speaking to God he says you bear the entire world meaning that Hashem as we already spoke about sustains and supports the entire world so kind of saying like King just bear my sin along with it is mice and so heavy you cannot bear it you're taking the whole world on support the destructive Angel until I do truva and rectify what I did so this attribute involves a great deal forbearance patience Hashem patiently supports and sustains the evil creation that the sinner made until he does truva that's what kind is asking for some mercy and some patience can't you carry it for a while a person should learn from from here tolerance to endure the burden of his fellow man right we're talking about we have eight billion plus people that we deal with we don't really have to deal with most of them thank God I'm kidding but we do have a lot of people we have to deal with and the evil that they do so even while his evil even while his evil that he perpetrated against him still stands before his eyes so you're you know you don't forget what someone did to you right you might forget but you don't forget you know that statement he should be patient with the offender until he repairs the damage or until it disappears on its own or a similar remedy occurs this is again a very hard I'm sure we've all been in positions maybe even today not just yesteryear with um with people who really uh irked us if I could say that's a a nice way of putting it I want to share just the difference between revenge and a grudge does anybody know the difference so revenge is when let's take uh mine so I say to you um you came to me yesterday and you want to borrow something from me and uh I didn't lend it to you okay you came to me now I come to you and you say um I'm gonna buy can I borrow something from you so revenge is no I'm not going to give it to you because you didn't lend me yesterday that's Revenge what's a grudge can I come to you and again the whole scenario took place but you say to me yeah I'm gonna lend it to you I'm going to lend it to you because you didn't lend me when I needed it but I'm not like you that's called a grudge the Revenge would be the withholding The Grudges communicating why I'm giving it to you because I have a grudge these are two of the 613 mixes you're not allowed to do this so just imagine how many people you know rub us the wrong way and what if we didn't communicate it what you just didn't lend them you know I'm sorry I I don't have it I'm out of time I'm not available or you don't answer the phone they call because you know they need it there's a concept of having a grudge in your heart and it's in my focus whether it's actually communicated is the violation of the 600 you know one of the 613 Commandments but I think we should understand that usually was destroyed because we didn't keep the letter of the law I'm sorry we only kept the letter of the law we didn't go beyond the letter law so we should try to keep the spirit of the law this is what Hashem he was not going to hold the Grudge the people people sin against him and he keeps uh infusing them with life and they created these uh Angelic forces or these energies and he's keeping those going and these were abuses to him so to speak they were in the front to him and yet he keeps it going so the question is what are we going to do about it and I want to read from the the attachments right attribute number two who pardons or bears iniquity so every time someone sins an accusing Angel comes into being we read in perkiavo of chapter 411. God compassionately sustains the evil force so that the sinner may continue to live and have the opportunity to repent from this man should learn to be tolerant even when his neighbor offends him gonna have to look and figure it out okay we can talk for hours you can go and listen to the hour and a half share I gave on it okay you can read the book they give examples we have to figure out how in our own lives to make this into a practice okay let's go to number three the number three is that he removes iniquity Okay so we've actually spoke about this this morning that God does not look at the sin of yaakov okay but let's talk about it from here this is a great attribute for hashem's forgiveness is not granted by means of any intermediary this again would go against many other religions you know many religions even the first man-made religion which was several Generations after Adam so they figured oh yeah God created the world they're not denying that but he's so busy the world is so great and so big and he's so busy like with big things what's he going to deal with us we'll just talk to the Sun and the Moon in the different intermediaries in order to get what we want and Mankind has basically they created gods in their own image right Christianity is like the perfect example of trying to create a God in your own image but basically what we're claiming here with the and you'll see it in Psalms King David in Psalms 1 30 verse 4 forgiveness is with you he is the one he does he's I mean he's big and he's bigger than we can ever imagine And yet when it comes to the Forgiveness part Tim removes the iniquity doesn't send an agent he doesn't send uh you know a minister he doesn't send a servant he himself uh removes the iniquity okay forgiveness is with you what does this forgiveness entail Hashem cleanses the sin um this sorry cleanses The Sinner from his sin now this is a little bit um what do you call it risque if you want to call it that in Isaiah issue of chapter four verse 4 it says Hashem shall wash the filth it's actually the word that so is used soah is what usually ends up in a diaper or you know you know what I mean so anyway Hashem himself he is the one who cleanses hashemash the filth of the daughters of xiong right the daughters of seon who's sitting here at this table other than the daughters of Sia this is the attribute of our attribute here that he removes iniquity hashem's Hashem sends cleansing Waters to go and wash away the sin so again I want to take you on a short Journey I have my little notes here it's in sorry Ezekiel chapter 36 verse 25. okay so in 3625 and 26 right so God says I will sprinkle sprinkle pure water upon you in personally please that you may become cleansed I will cleanse you from all your contamination and from all your Idols so we do sing this I believe we see the Hebrew on there right yes it's a beautiful song but I also like 26. I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you I will remove the Heart of Stone from your flesh and give you a heart of Flesh so that is also a beautiful beautiful classic okay yeah it's Hashem who personally is cleansing us cleaning us I mean you guys are all women but you guys are not only it but uh you know we all know what it's like to clean up after somebody else man must do exactly the same can you believe it we all have to do it so leave these will practice he should not say why should I fix what is someone else's fault or damage you know Live and Let Live I got my life you know that all changed in fact these weeks of partials were talking about the whole idea of uh our voot Collective responsibility uh the whole scenario of putting the blessing in the curse we were already being warned and then again in this week's we're talking about the those basically on Mount grazing and mount alveil what's going to happen once we go to the lands of Israel there's a choreographed uh idea of you know accepting actually it's called accepting responsibility it's called a New Covenant by the way that we have accepted upon ourselves the same Torah but more responsibility no longer guys when I sin it's only my problem we're entering a covenant where when you sin it's my problem and when I sin it's your problem that's that's the New Covenant that took place or takes place at um at Mount grazing and Manta there so do not say that don't say well let them fix it why should I fix it for when a person sins Hashem himself I mean he's fixing it he's cleaning it why can't we befriend The Sinner I mean it sounds like a very weird thing right at least don't cut them off you know they're going to do truva and you're responsible if they don't I mean not fully questions how do you go about giving rebuke do you give rebuke with um you know your right hand and you bring them closer or are you only giving them rebuke with the left hand and pushing them away so don't say that don't let them why should I fix someone else's sins when a person sins Hashem himself not through an intermediary fixes his crookedness and washes the filth of his sin what do we do we just cut them off we don't want anything to do with them yeah there are people believe me I don't have to tell you that are just so damaging that it's very difficult to be around them and function I get it but let's just say most people that seem that way really not they're either looking for attention they're they have a very negative you know self-esteem and it needs to be uh worked on so to speak how okay that you're going to filter your local uh Rabbi or psychologist um so Shem himself not through an intimate intermediary fixes his crookedness and washes the filth of his sin the whole idea of giving to one of the 6 13 misses to give rebuke but it has to be done out of love it's the same verses you shall love your neighbors yourself rebuke so if it's not done out of love it shouldn't be done yeah and I'm going to talk about King David and um shimmy lingera shortly I'll tell you the story remind me I don't tell it say oh what happened to that story shimmy benguer with this in mind a person should be ashamed to sin again since the king himself washes the filth from the soiled arraignment now let me tell you about the story of King David's rebellious son so much so that when dovet was running away shimmy was throwing rocks that doesn't really was already the king but nobody knew it wasn't like whatever and then people knew it but he was throwing he wasn't recognized so he was throwing rocks at the king and throwing rocks at the king you know you know you're off with your head right your murid the Mathis but um so there was uh the nephew of the others who happened to me is General Johor binsurura wanted to kill him right on the spot and David said no okay no don't kill him now Okay so so what David expressed was listen the guy throwing rocks at me I deserve to have rock star to me this is a very harsh on reality of the world whatever happened it's supposed to happen whatever will happen supposed to happen just the reality of it so love it accepted that I must have done something that deserved it I needed a lesson of humiliation I was humiliated by this very important person throwing Rock City but don't kill him because Scott's will now what did that really mean the understanding is that it's not true that the person did not deserve to be thought to be killed at some point but he left King Solomon he left Solomon who was not yet King but his son while he was still alive make sure to take this and we're going to call Revenge but it doesn't matter we're not it's not really revenge in the sense we spoke to God make sure to kill have this guy but do it through a pretext don't do it because he did this to me find some other excuse and Solomon tells him don't leave town you know I'll leave you shalim and and shimmy benguera he had some some donkeys that got lost whatever they ran away he left town for his donkeys I mean if it was your mother's funeral if it was you know to make a million dollar deal I think it might be worth it right but whatever I mean you told me the thing was don't leave town or you're dead like you he knew that if he left town he's dead because the king said that's it you can't leave King Solomon you can't live down and he left to find a few donkeys so the understanding is that what changes David's mind that in his whole life accepted God's Divine Providence that I I needed that humiliation and it was destined to happen I'm not going to blame the guy he did blame the guy but he was so afraid of his own personal biases that he made sure during his lifetime he didn't do it in fact he even told Simon make sure to find another pretext which he did found the pretext okay don't leave town and he left town but it was the um so even though we discussed this whole idea of a grudge and whether it's actually communicating or not he wanted to make sure that when this guy simply gets what he deserves it wasn't coming from a negative place from within that's how serious when we think of giving take some deep breaths strategize what's the best way to talk to this person without um destroying that you know the point is the goal is to get them to Jesuit you know if the only thing they walk away with is you're a jerk you're not nice you know you load you laid it on there heavy which we're going to talk about shortly maybe I can talk about it now um when you give review don't lay okay oh I got to be honest with this person I'm gonna just tell them the whole story from beginning to end and how much they hurt me and everything they did wrong don't do that because that is not going to be productive leave something out maybe for later but no leave something out leave something up maybe you have to leave a lot of it out focus on one two things you want them to do true good like it's not I'm a fishing and you're trying to pull them in but in a certain sense what's your goal the day should know you love them and number two that they're not total direct they're not totally worthless right so we have to be very careful how we give reviews okay let's talk about over let's let me just read what he says here in the here no I have it here somewhere I got all these papers over here this is according to the article Tash League number three and he overlooks transgression right he overlooks transgression we ultimately are going to overlook transgression right get out of that Grudge out of your heart uh The Grudge and and he overlooks transgression like literally rebelliousness God himself grants forgiveness he does not delegate this important function to a deputy as scripture says in Psalms we read that for with use forgiveness so what does this attribute teach us then it teaches man that since every wrong is an affront to God we must strive to correct it no matter who committed it would you would we hesitate to save our neighbor's house from burning because we didn't set the blaze right so what his house is burning I'm not guilty just let it burn no you all would run right someone falls on the bus you figure out a way to help them up alert the driver to stop whatever it is okay okay let's go to the last one for tonight um to the remnants of his inheritance so what does it sound like it really from a push-up shot it doesn't really sound like this is an attribute of Mercy it's just a description of who Hashem is um has a special relationship with but the relationship is the key word here foreign don't read his remnant of his inheritance but as his flesh in other words we are actually gods partner the Jewish people are we're his family were actually his family let's start with the reading of the text a kuddish bar who acts towards beginning Israel in this way saying what shall I do with them they are my relatives like in other words in in Leviticus chapter 19 where it describes all the Forbidden relationships it's called shareit This is flesh and in fact the Cohen's wife is called lecheirit that's he's a lot of matani becoming pure for her even though it kind is normally not allowed to be in a cemetery but there are seven closest relatives if you look there's only six listed but it says the relative closest to him and then at least six well who is the closest relative the wife so that's it uses the word flesh right we know that man and will become one flesh okay so we're talking about the very fact that we are God's relative so much so God says they are my relatives with whom I have a close resolution relationship the Jewish people are like a Karishma whose spouse furthermore we're actually called my daughter my sister my mother I mean this is a crazy concept that we're actually called God's mother yeah it's further written Israel the nation is related to him it says in Psalms 148 Israel that we are his relative we are related to God they are actually related to him they are his children we know there's so many verses that talk about him being our father and us being his children and the verse thus says to the remnant of his inheritance now that that's the verse that's the words we're using right now to explain this is actually a trait how how is it a trait a trait of Mercy so he just explains how it means that close relative find any event the word doesn't lose its simple meaning now why does Hashem say why what does Hashem say if I punish them what happens when you punish a relative I'm sure a mother feels it a father feels it out of the brothers and sisters feel this much um but uh when you punish your you know a close relative you're the one experiencing the pain as well and in in Isaiah 63 9 the culture the word Lo is a little playing words I'm not going to get into the olive versus Islamic love but in all their suffering he suffers whenever we suffer God suffers when you know we could be praying for the end of the Exile why because I'm suffering do you have any idea how much God is suffering because of the Exile again it works the same way when we turn on Mercy Mercy comes God forbid it's also the other way when we sin and we are exiled God is in Exile and he's suffering we should be crying for the Sheena that is suffering it should be that real to us I'm going to go down to the next paragraph it's also written he was unable to endure the pain of Israel it says in the Shelf team and he cannot endure their pain and shame since they are the remnant of his no no he doesn't want to it's very painful it's extremely painful so how should we treat another human being all Jews are close relatives for their souls are combined together every Jew has with himself a portion of every other Jewish Soul Jew Soul this is why the Merit of a large Gathering people performing a Mitzvah right we say Rove am hatterson the more people performing a Mitzvah the more glory to the king Hallelujah do I get a Hallelujah let's hear it because our souls are combined for this reason reason the sages tell us that the first 10 people to arrive ensure we're talking about men by the way women are a million on their own okay now so the men are lacking if there's not a minion so the first ten receive reward equivalent to everyone who comes after them even if they're a hundred the number 100 is specifically used here since each of the first ten people included in one another in other words I can't describe this from a metaphysical point of view but we're all interconnected I heard Rabbi Brady was explained like this I mean we're a helic from where a portion of God above God cannot be divided so I am you and you are me how can I hurt you I'm hurting myself um and Hashem on the other hand also I mean we're part of him we're not we're Inseparable we're Inseparable from each other and we're Inseparable from Hashem and let me just keep reading that uh so who the first ten get the reward for all the people to come after them it's for this reason as we said that all Jews are Havas have responsibility in okay all Jews are responsible for one another because every Jew has within himself a portion of every other Jew but a person sins he harms not only himself but also the portion of the fellow Jew that was so that's within me I mean just like all the 613 Commandments are all intertwined this is like in metaphysics it's the shrink Theory or the unification Theory well that's how the 613 mixes work that's how my body works that's how am Israel that's how the Torah works and we talked about this before that in the Ten Commandments there's 620 letters there's 613 for the seven for the 613 misses for the Jews and seven for the North High that's why the truly righteous notified is really attached to the Jewish Nation on a big level so let's move on can we talk about that whether the day knock Channel but for this reason we said that all Israel responsible for one another because every Jew has with himself a portion of every other Jew we said when he sins he not only affirms himself but also fine and that's due to the shared Soul he's responsible for the other they are just like one flesh and we said that this is the um the remnant or the Flesh of his inheritance this is how God is going to treat us this is how we are going to end up treating each other how have I right we should only know from such things for this reasoning reason it is fitting for each person to seek the benefit of his fellow be pleased with his fellow success right you hear about someone success what do you say I wonder how I can do that well well first acknowledge how happy you are for the person right I don't know if anybody's ever been in a position like this we have a friend they lost a lot of weight so you're going to say um you know here that's okay you want to see their downfall I mean I don't know I've never been in that position I'd probably other similar positions but not that but we have to be very careful you follow what I said I have you ever look on your face okay we should be happy with other people's success we shouldn't uh be trying to think of ways to undermine their success right that's why we're commanded did I skip something I I think I skipped something okay for this reason it's fitting right okay this is why we're commanded love your neighbor as yourself this is what is the greatest principle of the entire Torah as if it's all 612 other Mitzvahs are actually sub categories every Miss we do is actually intertwined and ultimately for that ultimate purpose it is proper for one to seek the well-being of his fellow never speak against him right never speak against or desire his disparagement Justice does not want us to be disgraced or harmed since we are his relatives you understand we're talking about every one of these traits we're supposed to incorporate it's not the toy says it's not too distance for you it's not too hard for you it's in your mouth you can do it let's figure out how this is the reality of Torah this is not like you know sitting and figuring how to make senses that's true we have to know how to make senses there's different ways but this is the real intricate stuff that we have to live with on a daily you can always go to the store but I already made senses he too should never desire disgrace pain or failure to be full his fellow these things should affect him as if he were to suffer the same pain himself to be extremely empathetic and an empath and what's the word and empathic and anyway these things should affect him as if he were to suffer the same pain himself or conversely if he would enjoy the same good fortune and of course we should really feel that so the last summary of attribute number four from the tashley is for the remnant of his Heritage the prophet directs his words to the remnant of Israel to which survived the long exile God cannot bear Israel's pain for it is his Remnant it's it is his Remnant it's his relatives and and all that he has in his universe God loves us from God's love for us a Jew learns how to love his fellow man all Jews are related to each other in each Soul there's a portion of all the others it follows therefore that when a Jew sins his wrong affects not only his own soul but also the portion that all the other others possess in him okay so this is just the first before and I implore and I ask go back and see number one the introduction and if you want to really do your own study get some of the books that I recommended you can watch my series on all 13 attributes and there's a link there'll be a link below and with that um any questions [Music] foreign [Music]