Word for Shabbos Table: How We Can Global Influence for the Good

Heat. Heat. [Music] your sh. What mitzvah are we all about to do? This is for the newcomers, okay, to the show, to the show, to the what mitzvah we about to do? learning to learning Torah. Right now, we could launch into it or we could stop for one second and say, "I'm learning mitzvah and I'm learning Torah because you, Hashem, told me to, you commanded me to." The question is, what's the difference? Does that really make a big difference? What? between learning Torah without stopping first and having intention to learn Torah. Does it make a difference? Is there a difference in let's say the reward? Yes. Totally correct. Listen to what the Ron says. The the original Ron says he says take two peoples who are doing a mitzvah. One does it he does it tries his best. The other does it with kavana. Now by kavana most people think kavana means focus here I mean it means intentionality right you express your intentions to hashem and focus is big but okay what's the difference so the ron says that I don't care what kind of sophisticated uh computers you have a cannot tell you the difference he says aim the difference is so rate the it can't be calculated. Okay, so it's a big deal and this this doesn't just apply to what we're doing right now learning Torah. Everything you smile at your wife, right? You say good morning to somebody on the street. Unbelievable if you do it with intention. Okay, that's that's what I'm all about these days is trying to give my life over to this to because it's huge. Okay, but now I just told you it's a big deal. But let's make that make sense for a second. Okay. The uh I I like bringing this example. Uh uh Rev Simka told me about uh Rav Gance uh one of the great rabbis in recent times what he said about his wife like what a sedish she was. So let me talk about another great rabbi Rashom Zman Orbach. Okay. Rashom Zman did something that most of us don't do. Okay. What do we do when we leave the house? We go like this. You know, if we have an interview or a business meeting, you spruce up when you go in out of the house and into the meeting. Schlommo Zman, what do you do every day? He came home and he went, "Oh, I'm going to see my wife." You hear that? He was he was on he was connected when he saw his wife every day. We tend to fall into what's the word? Routine. Routine. and wrote. Okay. They he was not living by wrote and that's what you said about the Gansza's wife. So trust me uh it's a big thing you're showing because the whole thing is there's a very big popular thing right now. Mindfulness, right? Boy is it popular. And I can understand it because if you like pay a little more attention and you're more present, it feels kind of good. you're actually becoming a little bit alive, right? But what Judaism does is so much more because we we are aware that there's the presence in the present, right? We we're with Kadesh Boru right now. Okay? Even though we don't see it, he's here. So therefore, when we stop and say, "Hashem, I'm not just sitting here because I love Torah. I'm doing this because you command me to." It's huge. Okay, that's the hug. Now I want to talk about Can you hear it? Okay. Okay. Louis Raf LMA, good to have you here. Thank you, brother. Sure. Okay. So, um, every week though, so much is going on in the world and you know, if it's not going in the direction you want, uh, you can feel very powerless, right? I mean, if you're honest, like what? I'm going to influence whether Trump has a ceasefire or not. I'm going to do that, right? We can feel like we're we can't influence things. We feel powerless. I'm I wanted uh this year this week's para is going to show you BT and I'm not I promise I'm not just saying this, okay? We are so much more influential than we can fathom, okay? Unbelievable, you know, nowadays. I mean you the business guys know better than me but I'm trying to I'm trying to make Kavana an intention global so I'm learning a little more about business right so nowadays what's one of the most in uh effective marketing things like getting getting your product out what do you do does anyone know what's one of the it's like a new a new approach they have these days involves a person or or people all Right. Influencers. Have you heard that? You get an influencer. You get someone who has three million uh views every time they speak. Right? So they if they're saying I love cabon and misposs I promise you they're going to know about km more more. Right? So that being influencer. So the truth of the matter is I we don't realize how much we can be influencers. And that's that's what I want to talk about. That's point number one. We're going to learn how to have a momish global impact. And I promise I'm not just saying that. Okay, number one. Number two, this exile we're in right now, it's a pretty gruesome one. And most people will tell you that that the e What exile are we in right now? Let's see if people say it or they say the one that most people think. What exile? Exile. The Jews have been in exile for thousands of years. What's the name of this exile? Well, well, that's that's the period, right? We're in the footsteps of the Messiah. But here, I'll give you example. We were in um we were in Bville. We're in Gosville and Goss. And whi which one are we in now? Edom. Edom. Now that's generally true. But Rav Mosha Shapi Zetal he was Mgala. There was an other major exile. And by the way, once someone once a great rabbi sees something, then you go, "Oh, oh, actually many people are saying this." There's an other golus we're in right now. Yeshelis says there's there's midrashian that say that this is going to be the most painful, brutal gullis is the Arabs, yes. Okay. Very, very difficult gullis. And and there are books I can I can point you in the right direction where they talk about it. It's like a combination. It's a combination of Adam and Ishmael. That's not simple. All right? You know, uh Adam did their part with the show and now look, we're facing Ishmael big time. Okay? So now we know this. Oh, this is a this is a Revar Ingber point. Okay. Rabbi Ingber points out that this exile business was in the beginning of the creation. Right? It says braces and then it talks about the world being to right desolate void. So the midish immediately says this is golas bubble. This is going. We're We're meant to struggle with being in these foreign environments that are very unpleasant till the Messiah comes. Okay. Please God, we're getting close. Now, what do you think you're supposed to learn from being in a particular gullis? That's I'm really asking. It's not rhetorical. If if I find myself um here, I'll give you example. Gullis um pros Right. That's that we know there's kind of these things are welling up in certain ways. But what was the what was um pros characterized by Persia? Akash veros what was the uh what was that like? What was that culture all about? Uh we're getting there. Tya, right? Indulgence. Akasher was compared to a bear that has no rest. Everyone's seen at the zoo, right? When the bear is going like this and you see people in shaw like this too, right? A mana, right? No, no tranquility, right? Because they were so involved in in uh tya and things like this. Okay. So, what why would Hashem put us what's the purpose of Hashem putting us in an environment like that? I mean, obviously, we hadn't done um been on top form or we wouldn't be in exile. But still though, is there anything that's an accident? No one's sitting here right now. It's not an accident who you're sitting next to, what day it is. Nothing's an accident. So, what is the purpose of Shem putting us in these particular cultures? To benefit us. To Okay. In what way? They certainly seem to be pretty lousy. Yeah, you're right though. Think about it. How would how does it benefit us to be there? From what? From from there. Exactly. Well, here that's the point. Okay. Ramosa Shapiro again. We find our you got to do with him all the time, right? Yeah. Wow. Unbelievable. He put out all that Torah after Nace. But a so re rev Shapiro explains they have an exaggerated level of some bad character trait that we have and were put there to overcome that. Okay. Would you say that again please? Yes. Yeah. Here. Let's take Persia again to say they had um an exagger exaggerated level of lust and and greed and indulgence. That was Persia. That's why I'm sitting next to Le. No. Oh. Oh. Oh. Okay. You're asking a difficulty. Give me Give me a little time. Okay. You're in a You're not in the You're not in exile when you're in in sitting in a room of people are coming to learn Torah, right? And they're over 20 years old. That's not exile. But I'm saying that ex when you're in a bad environment, there's a there's something they've got that's negative. We have it, but they're like the extreme of it. Okay. So, where am I heading to? Yes. Okay. You We are not It's not an accident. We're surrounded by Yesh. And it must be something very important for us to do before Hashem says, "Game over. Come home, my children." Right? The gula. Okay? Because this is it. We have Adam. There's nothing after this. And we we see what's going on in the world. Who knows how close we are, but it's unbelievable. Okay, so we have to think about, and I think this isn't a hard question. What is Yesh's character uh in the negative? Wild. Wild. Yes. And what were you going to say? Right. Or yes, that that's part of it. But he's called a parah adam, right? And again, I guess this year is a expression of a Mosha Shapi. Actually, every point is actually coming out to be him. I think he was the one who said that. It didn't say he's an Adam parah, right? Which mean his essence is a person, but he's wild. It says he's a para adam. So he's a wild wild something wild animal, right? That has the exterior an adjective scrammy looks like a human. Okay. So, okay, that's them. We like to point out there and we see it. We see it. It's it's horrible. The ones that are terroristic are tremendous example of this. Okay. What is it in us that is, let's say, wild in a negative way that we have to fix? All right. Now, this one I I mean, you can try, but I I wouldn't expect you to know that we don't seem like that. We do not seem like uh these wild animals in the Gaza tunnels. We don't seem like that. But what's the common quality? Okay. So have a we have two categories. We have a behemoth and a kaya, right? Beaheima is a domesticated animal and then the high is wild animal. How would what category is a is a seuss a horse? Yeah, I know. It looks like it. But in general, wild horses, right? There you go. I did that for mine. Yeah. Why did he leave? Wild horses. Okay. So, so wild wild. We are compared to wild horses says Yuria Anvi when we don't do something important. Okay. Um you know that and that's the secret and that's what this class is about. Okay. Just to prove that we can be wild is is this I I love this. I saw this re avi. He's I don't think he's related to Dovid, but anybody if you're dealing with kids and stuff like this. Okay. But all right, but that's the nimshell. So you have an actor, it's like one of those Shakespeare things, right? So the he's playing his role is that there's going to be a cannon shot and when the cannon's shot he's gonna go Hark where for art thou he let's see he just says Hark and he just ask a question right so he keeps they keep exploding the cannon he goes Hark exploding the cannon hark exploding the cannon hark right night comes to the show explode the cannon He didn't say hard and he like freaked out. That's us with our kids, right? No, I should be calm. You know, okay, I know he's going to press my button, but you know, I shouldn't Whoa, why are you doing that? Right. You know, we act impulsive or or a wife presses her but I'm using married men's thing, but everybody gets their button pressed, right? And you know better, right? Right up here. you know, I shouldn't react like that. I shouldn't make a poor taste joke. I shouldn't um, you know, just lose it, right? But we lose it, don't we? We, if we're honest, lose it. What's that? Excellent. We choose to lose it, but we don't. But don't do you want to lose it. You don't, right? You know that when you get upset and you get like this, you don't want to, but you're right. If you do it, you chose it on some level. Okay. When you know that you really know I see you just your motion and you become perfect in that kind of sense but You are godly and people forget it. Beautiful. And this is the thing that they need to remember and they can do it. Beautiful. Beautiful. We're going to get there. I'm going to talk about very practically how to get there and it's going to be from this week's par. So I'll tell you what is it that the the Nubi calls us like wild animals, right? We're impul it means we have this impulsivity. There's nothing more impulsive than Yesh. But we're there. Hashem's saying, "Get rid of your impulsivity." Okay. All right. We're gonna um tell me your name again. Yak said a beautiful angle. We'll get there. But right, how do we deal with how do we rid ourselves of that impulsivity in the moment? Okay, that's when so what the the what R Shapi says is like this. You need to dohon. What's hesbon and nephesh Moshe? What's hesbon and nephination of the self? Of the self. Right. Right. You know that's a good translation of uh of nephish. It's it's like yourself. It's or a soul. It's also the soul but it's the lower part of your soul. That makes perfect sense actually. You have the nephesh ru and the shama. Right. So the neffish is most connected to the animalistic side. Perah. Okay. So you have to do a of your impulsivity of your perah. Okay. I mean also by the way ru by the way the ru also is responsible for for like one of the worst things in the negative. What is the ru connected to? Breath for sure. And what else? Ga. Yes. G says they always say. So we have ga. What else? It's the how we're defined by uncleus the famous thing. How does uncleus define us? What the person a person is a mala speech speech is in the ruin. Okay. And ga these things are there. So we really have to do a nephesh and but you know what the nephesh says your nish hate doesn't sin doesn't um benmish your soul it's like above it all okay but we need to do this okay so what I just said what the whole thing I'm trying to do here is do things with intention so in order to do nephish to I don't want to just tell you to do it how to do it how we can defeat Ishmael, I want you to have kavana for the mitzvah it is. So, let me ask you, what mitzvah are you doing when you do? Okay, good. So, one one is chuva repenting. Okay, chuva. We could is chuva. And there's one other uh I could bring out two others and and I'm going to focus on chuva, but but what else? Anything else? When you do ah what mitzvah what and you know what that is that's the mitzvah of emulating Hashem's perfection every time you identify aaron lacking and you remove it you're more like Hashem so that's a mitzvah of and there's a mit I'm just looking for one more one more mitzvah when you do yoursem, right? You you care about the consequences. So that's it's also your hashem. But let's just talk about the chuva one. Okay. Uh a couple weeks ago um we had a very kind of powerful interchange and I you over here Ronnie you know um when you start to feel how close we may be to the end and how tense things are going. Thank you. when you start to feel that you you start to say I don't know if I'm ready right remember that discussion we had like it's a little heavy um you know especially a bit older am I ready am I ready to meet Hashem and the Mashia am I ready it's like a scary thing in a certain sense right so this is a way this is a way to feel to get ready okay everyone's saying what do I do yeah by the way if the Messiah comes it's like Game over. We're not going to be able to grow through her heroism and struggle anymore. It's just going to be easy development of our soul. And we're going to real answer. It says um there's a mid that says um there are days that don't have desire. And it says those are the times of the Messiah where there will be no more reward for your efforts. That's what it says. Uh about that time. Yeah. Okay. So let's talk after. Okay. All right. Good. Let me just show you the part in the para. Okay. So and this is also this is also where I I want to go back. I said we can be global influence. We can be much more influential than we when than we know. Okay. So if in paras midbar let me just share this with you it's and it's based on gammor and baba basra in fact those who've read msus sharing you know the thing with the maze right it's a famous metaphor that if it's a maze in versail if you will and you go any direction you go to get out it all looks the same and you can't get out how do you get out in the metaphor Do you remember what how how do you get out of that maze? What? Well, somebody who's up above like an umpire like you know in the tennis they had the umpire up there. So if there's somebody above the maze, right? He can tell you go make a right, make a left and then you're out, right? So the the Ram call brings that and he says what's the the nimshall is very hard for us to get out of the prisons we make for ourselves right we get stuck it's hard for us to overcome our it's hard for us to overcome impulsivity etc right so he says who's on the top he says these are the Moshlin what's a mo what's a Mosha ruler He says, "Let's look at the ruler say it's in this week's parat." Let me um let me read this to you. It says, "Therefore the ruler said this." Ready? Can someone translate? Come make an accounting. All right. It's all about accounting, right? The rulers make an accounting. What is the accounting they make? Okay, so this is Gamar and Baba Basra. It says like this. And remember, we're working on trying to overcome impulsivity, which means that we're trying to tikunidos and we're and we're going to get an approach towards chuva out of this. So have in mind that we're doing the prep for that by understanding this gar. It says like this the rulers these are people who are ruling over their their drives and includes make an accounting. Now this accounting is in per AOS and it's what Rebby said. Reby says if you'll make this accounting you won't fail. You won't sin. All right. So what is the counting? I'm going to skip a word here because it's a big point. I just want it says he says like this have saved mitzvah scar. Think of the loss involved with a mitzvah visav its reward. Okay. The scar of vera can negate hea and the reward of an aa visav its loss. Okay. Now isn't that a little strange? I mean in the Torah it said it tells you it hints at reward you get at least in this world, right? or punishments, right? Why would you want to bring up um the downsides of mitzvah? Here it's saying think about the downsides when you do a mitzvah. And now it's true. It says compare it to the reward. Okay, we get the math, but also it says by averas think about the reward of the a vera. Um and then think about loss. Why bring that up? Why bring up the uh the up the downside of sin of of mitzvah? Why? Why? And then why bring up the reward you get when you do an aera? You have something you need to do and learn about yourself. Your self is your body and the body need to be connected to the spirit. This guy's good. Where did Yak come from, Rabbi? Oh, you brought him. Not that you're not good, but he's like he's on fire. Moshe, get your teasing. I'll No. So, here so here's the thing is I if you don't pay I'll give you example. My rebby Rabbi Green um we we used to do the Koopa Sedaka roots, right? You do the root with McCoy still. Oh, what a I envy you. You can envy people and misses. Okay. So, we used to collect sodaka and um I used to do it actually with spare rabbit green came with. So, I said, "Wow, I have a I have like a half hour with my Revy. I'm going to take advantage of the time." So, I asked him something I've been waiting for. I asked I said, "Revy, I've been working on Heshbon and Effish, okay? And I gotta be honest with you. I when I do it, it I'm inconsistent in doing it at all. Okay. And when I do it, it's very superficial. Good question, right? You know what he said to me? He says, "You don't want to do aspirin and effic. I'm asking you how to improve." So, you don't want to do it. And he didn't he didn't explain it. But then I then I got it. Part of me the Why was I missping it? And why was I doing it superficially? Because some part of me didn't want to do it. Right. Exactly. Right. So, so but that's So, here's the thing. What if to do mitzvah, you have to realize there is some loss. There's some resistance. You have to be aware of the oppositional force inside of yourself in order to overcome it. Okay? And the same thing with averas. Okay? You're not doing I don't say it's a vera per se, but you're not doing the wrong thing. I know this sounds obvious that you enjoy some aspect of a vera, but if you're if you really want to work on it, you have to put it on the table. You want you have to make it conscious. And if you don't make it conscious, you're going to lose. Okay. Okay. So, the thing is this um that this is the this is the way to do our part against Yeshua. Okay. If you're not in Gaza right now, okay, if you're not in Gaza right now, what can you do? Okay, I told you I learned the most incredible approach um uh from this soldier in Gaza. The the his father asked him, he got back, you know, he had a little break. His father asked him, he said, "What was it like down there?" Right? I mean, it was it. So he says, "Dad, I Aba, I can't tell you why." He says, "The whole time I," you know, he has a helmet and in his helmet there's the the makad, right? The commander or whoever is leading it. He's tell he's telling he says, "I spent the whole time listening to my commander and like I was like this all the time to make sure some you know wild beast doesn't come out of a hole." Right. So, right. That's the whole thing. So this is what I'm trying to say about kav mitzvah. If you have consciousness right now, we're in front of the commander, okay? All the time. And he's giving us instructions in every situation. If you know Torah, like you know, right now, learn Torah, try to work on yourself, right? That's the command right now. But also, you realize that there's a Yates who's trying to come out and surprise you and take your folks here. This is I learned so much from that. Okay, but here's the point. I think he's right. I should have a drink. One second, please. Do the art of art is this is awareness, reverence, and then thanks. one shall call me at the gro. Okay, by the way, I we're going to I want us to do heshbon and netfish right now, but I have just a little more to explain and then I want us to try to do this, okay? Because I think it's huge. All right, this was by the way, this is this is famous that parro parro just kept us busy so we wouldn't do this, right? right now uh right now distractions you know it's just it's cliche to talk about how many distractions there are and how easy it but the bottom line is that is the way in which yes gets the yesh us gets unleashed because if we're distracted we're caught off guard and we don't feel we have time to make a heshb okay so here's what it says I left out a world a word it says shall it says we should make an accounting of the world. Now the Rambam says I need to find out that other Rambam. The Rambam says that and here this is a book called Evamelik and in the Eval Rahun says we have a mitzvah to be here comes the umis to be right. So he says we have a mitzvah to be a yeom every day. All of us not just the big guys. Every day ace every time period and situation every moment. Okay. So how can we be sadic ol a global level sodic? All right. The rambom says we do this. We we we look at our situation and let's look at it right now, okay? Things can go any way right now, okay? With what's going on globally. When I say anyway, please God, we know Hashem's going to pull us through, but it could be ugly what could happen. Look what happened. H what? Look what happened right before the ceasefire. A missile goes into a protected room and kills four people. That that one moment. Look what happened. Rahmanislan. Rahmanislan. So here's what a saddic olum a global a worldle saddic does. He says if I do a mitzvah right now I tip my scales to be a sadic and the world's going to go up. If I do an a vera right now shalom I bring myself down and the world's going down. That's what you're supposed to be. Could you imagine the level of consciousness you would have if you're living like that every moment right right now when I go home and see the you know the person okay which way I'm going to tip it right that's the conscious is every moment you so have in mind right now that we're going to be sodic olum okay we're going to be on the level we're going to think about the impact on the world of my actions okay and I promise you you'll be a global influencer. Come on. We know. We know that behind the bottom line decision of what happened when that missile went into the apartment, the bottom line decision was Hashem. Okay? We're all We are the ones who have the most influence. We really do. Okay? We all have to just take our role. We're soldiers. We don't know our particular level or this, but we know what to do. We know we have to make this this accounting. All right. So I like everybody and as Mosha said the main thing here is you know doing chuba it says that the gula right it says cl one one condition that has to happen first claw does chuba but we don't know who who has to do what we don't know it may not be that some completely um assimulated uh doctor has to do we don't know what this threshold is Okay. But we do this. Everybody has to do something like you know when when Hashem shake things up Rahmanislan in in October 7 there probably not a Jew in the world wasn't at least more conscious that he's Jewish. Okay. Everybody is being at their level. We're we're in the spot. Okay. So let's do something huge right now. Okay. I want us to do a hedgehog. Okay. Uh, take a piece of paper or use your phone. All right. Use something or do we have a piece of paper? Yeah. I want everybody you'll thank me for doing this. Okay. I'm going to give you a little way to do it. Approach. Should we get some paper? We have paper. Is everyone p I have pens. Okay. Can we pause this first? We'll let it go and they can edit it. Okay. Not my fault. Excuse me. I blew it. He's gonna he's gonna give me a hard time. Okay. What do I do? Oh, wow. He's uh doing he's just tipped the world to the better. Okay. All right. Does um or do you have phones? I mean, I think it's beautiful. Okay. Oh, great. Oh, fantastic. Who wants to do it by paper? Okay. Take the paper. Trust me. Okay. Oh, that's great. That's even small. Okay. All right, everybody. Rabbi Gold I is a role model on this. He didn't need this class. I'm telling you. No, honestly. Honestly, we're very You're so lucky to have him as a Rosh Shiva. He is so consistently doing the right thing. Okay. Ronnie. Right. Okay. That's honest. Okay. Honesty is definitely the good way to start. Okay. All right. All right. All right. So, haven't been a mishia for a few years. Please, uh, you know, I kind of know what some of the more popular a veras are, so I'm going to mention them. Okay. And if it happens to relate to you, okay, but um, okay. So, um, so let's make two columns. Okay. All right. One is um mitzvah. Okay. And the other one she ram a veros. Okay. Two. Okay. Sorry my found one for you. Okay. Let's start. Let's start on the a vera side. Okay. I'm going to maybe throw out some common ones, but you can also think about what what you tend to have a struggle with. But here, very common is anger. It's giving a list here, which also that's not my problem. Okay. Okay. It's for you. Okay. For you. Okay. Lion. Next. Lian. Yeah. Right. If it speaks to you, write it down. Okay. Okay. No. Sarcasm. Yeah. It's called late sonus. Okay. Okay. Um we said anger linara sarcasm. Um um that's Yes, exactly. Inappropriate thoughts. Oh, just thoughts. Well, you know what I mean. You know, if it's, you know, do you know what I mean by inappropriate thoughts or let's say looking at at things, right? Right. Okay. All right. Um All right. Then um wasting time because wasting time is Bal Torah and it says that the base of Mikdash was destroyed. one of the reasons because of Balara. Okay. Uh the first I think it was the first one I think. Okay. Let's go now to mitzvote. Now what I want here in mitzvot for all right now no it's not. Thank you Mosha. Now take a minute and add your own personal ones. No no no not etc. Put your own things now. Think if think if there's any other areas you're aware of. Write them down. That's super important. Okay. If I didn't capture capture it, please think of things that you did did. Um Okay. Um here I'm gonna write one. Um saying uh braas without kavana. Okay. Like isn't it there? Well, yeah, because it says it's usher to throw a bra out of your mouth. Yeah. So, okay. By the way, you know, um, Hashem knows we're trying and and this kind of I'm just trying to say here that this is, um, this is this can be very healthy to do. You know, this Yeah. Okay. But no, some people don't want to look at the negatives, but Okay. Any good. Take a take a few seconds to think of any other particular things that you have a problem with. Okay. All right. Okay. Okay. Looks like people can use him like a minute or so. See what I hope that the people are looking at this on the video do this. My the whole thing I try to do is not tell you to do something later. Let's do it right now. It's going to be huge. Okay. All right. Now, mitzvah, what do I mean here? Okay, so what you're told to think about um um you think about the loss with mitzvah. Okay, so here let me mention some mitzvah and we're going to think about maybe what's getting in the way of us not doing the mitzvah better or more often. Okay, so first one, let's just say is learning Torah. Okay. Praying and with Cavana sort of a flip side of the other giving to Daka. expressing love to which one expressing as a hatam loving your fellow Jew like yourself. So let me explain I I'll answer that. I'm glad you asked. I did tailor this. Okay. Expressing love. So the Rambam says that the two ways to primarily um love your neighbor. One is that his cavode or his self-esteem should be as important to you as your own. Okay? So I I'm just saying like encouragement and love expressing these things. That's a way to build his um sense of self. Okay. All right. Okay. Okay. Um Okay. and and then like hessed in general you know hessid involves um you know visiting someone who's not well or going to a levia or saying tom for people saying tom for people in trouble with kavana okay these are some mitzvah all right so now oh very good exactly that that's I think praying with gav Yes. Yes. Yes. Means like to really focus on your uh and that even if your parents are not alive. I try to remind that unfortunately I lost my both my parents in the past year. But whenever I think of you know I want to do this mitzvah better than normal for their ilas or or just do it. Yeah. Let's keep it off. Thank you David. Okay. So now let's we're going to just do two more things. Okay. We're um Yes. Yeah. Oh, look at those are the primary This is beautiful. Exactly. Okay. So now Oh. Oh. Oh. But you know that you were said that um I'm just thinking also um I was thinking about sitsus and to fill in like um having intention and focus when you're wearing them not doing them by wrote but I'll just tell you mitzvah for example with sitsus it's not enough just to say right and then go up there you should say I'm wearing sitsus to remember the mix the mitzositsus is gamatria 600 five knots eight strings that that's the how you do titsus so it's like upgrade okay just take a look we're going to take a minute now I want you to look at the aas and try to think what is what the whatever is most um your issue what whatever wherever you're struggling with a cernive era I want you to think about what am I getting out of this? Okay, let's do we're going to do that hedgebone of the world. Think about what am I getting from this and then we're going to of course compare it to what am I going to lose. Okay, just take one everybody. Just take one on your list of avas. Okay, that you know you're prone to and take a moment and think what am I getting about it. Reflect on that and then think about what the consequences are going to be. Okay, let's do it. We're doing chuva right now. Have in mind the miss of doing chuva vi chuva and okay when you say consequences what are you referring to? Um uh okay so Lush and Hara let's take Lush and Har um uh the two things there's first of all that this I'm really glad you asked that I mean in the negative like what's going to be a negative consequences okay so so here I'll I'll do lush and horror for you okay that's probably right right so lush and okay so let me let's say anger all right so what's the consequences what are negative. Okay. Well, what's Okay. Yes. All right. So, well, let me do both just to give an example. Okay. This is the type of thing. If you do this reflection exercise, you're you're weakening. I just want to remind you of that. Okay. And also, let's just remember, okay, this is the whole thing. The Yates wants to minimize the importance of what you're doing. Okay. So, we want to remember that right now. this exercise is is if um can tilt our our own souls and our own lives to the good and the world. Okay. So, I'm going to answer Mosha's question. I want to start with Les like just like basic human frailty enter to it. I mean what I never heard of the what if I never heard of the I heard before. I don't know what you're talking, you know, I'm not doing that. Right. Right. Right. But I don't know what you're talking about. Let me discuss discuss idea. Huh? Yeah. Go ahead, please. There's some idea that we most people know since then, you know, about human frailty of, you know, of of not being able to, you know, lift, you know, lift the big uh weight bundle. Yeah. Right. Right. So, has that played in here? Okay. So, I'm going to do that first and then go back to this exercise. Okay. Um, we think that like free will it's 5050, right? I have 50 pulling me this way 50. It's not true. The Gmorrah says that the Yates is stronger than us and if it's not for Hashem, we would always fail. And that was rigged that way. Ronnie, we are frail. We make mistakes and this that. So, we pull in Hashem. Okay. Shem says, "Don't think become like a spiritual athlete. I I know you're we get get my help. Get my help." Right? I know you're frail. He sets it up that way. And he also Yates is a really good psychologist at psyching us out, making us feel bad and feel powerless. Right? It's intentional. So we go, Hashem, please, you know, he's going to kill me without your help. You know, I'm frail. I'm frail is an act of humility and it can build a relationship with Hashem. It's precious. Okay, I want to say on that. Now, let's go back to this lash and har. I want to start with that. Okay, so here's an example. Okay, lushenhara. Um, why did I speak lushh hor? Because my ego got bruised. Okay, or someone hurt me. someone didn't do what I wanted them to do and I expected them to do it or someone just rubs me the wrong way. Okay. So, when I speak lush and horror, I feel like I'm getting back at them, you know, and it feels so good. My ego just gets like um calmed and assol to my ego. Okay. All right. So, that's the that's the gain of a vera. Okay. Now I have to ask myself is it worth it? Okay, cuz first of all, this is, you know, they say this about resentment. When you have resentment person, I love this. It's like an AA thing. They say when you have resentment for a person, it's like eating, you're eating poison, expecting the other guy to die, who's suffering when when you're have resentment, right? So, when I'm doing this, when I'm putting this, I'm like lowering myself. Just lower and lower. Is that is that is that a good way to boost your ego? Oh, yay. You're good. But so I'm lowering myself. I'm being more I'm feeding my ego in a negative way. These are some of the losses of speaking lush and har okay with anger is basically the same but ready and worse. Okay, lush and horror is causing damage to the pe person I'm speaking about. I'm harming them. I'm harming the listener and I'm a key cause in the base of mikdash remaining destroyed. Okay. Lion the het says that sinum is the underlying thing but it was the lush and har that leads to the destruction and the success of the hamas and the tunnels yak shim. Okay. anger what we can add anger is very much similar to all those things right but um anger is the Gammorra says it's like you're doing a votor it's like worshiping idols idols are bad you know that's high up on the list okay so this is the exercise but by the way you don't have to do it a lot okay don't let the eight so hard trick you know but if if we would do this once a day at night they say but be careful I night is a good time because you finish the day and you you have your rec the records in, right? The problem is you're usually exhausted, right? So, it's better to do it now. Anytime you feel good, do this. Okay. But look, okay. And then now let's just do the hesbone on the on the um mitzvah on the mitzvah. Okay. All right. So uh I since I'm working about a lot about kavana so we said Ian toil and praying with kavana right so what's the loss of that okay what's the loss of not doing the mitzah yeah no of doing of not no what what's yeah we have right what's the loss involved in praying with kavana okay yeah I I'm gonna make it huh lost in praying with Yes. Ready? Because it says consider the downside of praying with gav versus rur. Okay. So it say yeah it it's hard to concentrate. It hurts to think. Okay. It hurts to be patient. Okay. Ouch. You know that's the thing you hear. It takes you you're tired, right? You're tired. It's hard to focus when you're tired and when you're distracted, right? So that's the downside of f f of having kavana is it's gonna take some uh to overcome that. Okay. What's the upside? What the upside is first of all you're giving hashem the only thing you can give him your heart ram wants your heart. Okay, you're get it's the most precious thing when you become present when you overcome everything else to be um connect to Hashem. Okay, you're building your your in uh we call your inner strength. Okay, you're cultivating inner strength when you do this. Okay, you're going to have a bliss in the world to come. Okay, that's an example. May I'll give one more. Um saddaka. Saddaka is a big one. Okay. Because um Sedaka is is sort of obvious that you know um you know I I money I could have for myself. Uh I'm giving it out. I'm giving away my resources, right? Or if I give to someone, maybe they're going to start nagging me all the time, right? You know, there's there's all these negatives in quotes about giving sedaka, right? Let me tell you a little bit about the upside. Okay. Um it says seducka rescues from death. There are many stories about that. Tedducka also if a person was supposed to suffer in gehenn the gross says mish you it it it you don't have to get that part of gehenn and geanham's really bad but sadaka also helps you in your daily life okay in other words it doesn't just save you from death it's it brings all sorts of hidden blessings okay so that this is the hesbone rebuda nasi said do this and you won't sin re uh It said um was the the Raml said this is the umpires this is what they're telling you do this particular heshbone spend a little time like this but let's the last thing and let's just say this also as a toil to Hashem okay um akaj oh so boru um I'm um I intend to okay I'm gonna offer you to be a global influencer Okay, since we're close to the end, since a lot of people's lives are at stake right now, uh there's hostages, there's soldiers in danger, there's all sorts of there's anti-semitism like going through the roof around the world. The kajor I intend to bleetter do this analysis for about three minutes a day. for four days a week bleeder bleet. And a kajbu I'm going to try to be mindful also that if I do if I get rid of a vera or do a mitzvah I'm tipping myself and the world to the good and it's a tila to you a kajoru to really just bring us home. Okay. And now I just want to make two practical points. Okay, based on psychology, if um the best thing you can do right now, if you want to take this on is get somebody to partner with you or they don't even have to do it. They just say, "Can I tell you once a day or you can you ask me did I do my heshon?" Okay, it's called an accountability partner. It's a very helpful concept, right? So get somebody get somebody in this room. get somebody to just commit. Let's I'm suggesting four. Next thing, let's say you forget to do it or or you don't do it. So, the it's a bearish Jerry Seinfeld. Okay? Don't break the streak. Okay? Try to have a streak, but don't don't break it twice. Okay? If you miss one day, clean yourself up and do it the next day. Okay? So I repeat couple of minutes once a day four days get someone who will be will ask you if you did it or even better someone a partner to do it and if you miss it just get back on the on the wagon. Okay. All right. So Hashem should help us. Uh like I said we are influencers. Um, we just maybe not believe it, but we're global influencers if we do this. Okay. [Music] You must be your